For the last two weeks, I have been geared up and excited to tune in to watch Oprah’s Lifeclass with Dr. Gary Chapman, author of “The Five Love Languages”. Dr. Chapman is a Pastor, Speaker and Author, and this book has appeared over 283 times on the NY Times best sellers list (now THAT is a whole lot of times)! I have heard dozens of stories (including some last night) of couples whose marriages were saved because of this book. If you didn’t get to catch it, check out the video below to see a very small clip of what you missed.
In this video, Dr. Gary Chapman discusses: How to Keep Your Partner’s Love Tank Full
Were you and your partner once madly in love? Are you now feeling more like roommates? Audience member Christine says the spark between her and her husband, Brad, is long gone. Watch as Dr. Gary Chapman offers this couple advice and discusses the two stages of love in all relationships. Plus, find out how you can keep your partner’s “love tank” full.
Words of affirmation: Actions don’t always speak louder than words. If this is your love language, unsolicited compliments mean the world to you. Hearing the words “I love you” are important – hearing the reasons behind that love send your spirits skyward. Insults can leave you shattered and are not easily forgotten.
Just last week I wrote an article for Black and Married with Kids titled, “Are the Words ‘I Love You’ Really All That Important?” And from watching the show last night, the answer to that is it really does depend on your own particular love language. My love language is Words of Affirmation (I have something in common with Oprah! 😉 ). So as you can see from the description above, it absolutely is important to me. But I also learned last night that most people give their spouse and their loved ones (because this applies to all relationships across the board) the love language that they want in return, and not necessarily the love language that person needs/wants. I can definitely see how true that is even in my own marriage because my husband’s love language is Physical touch.
Physical touch: This language isn’t all about the bedroom. A person whose primary language is Physical Touch is, not surprisingly, very touchy. Hugs, pats on the back, holding hands, and thoughtful touches on the arm, shoulder, or face – they can all be ways to show excitement, concern, care, and love. Physical presence and accessibility are crucial, while neglect or abuse can be unforgivable and destructive.
If you don’t already know your love language, do yourself, your spouse/partner and family a favor and find out today! This could very well be the best Valentine’s Day gift you could ever give them. Take a few minutes to answer the questions below so you can understand which of the 5 Love Languages you possess, and what it actually means:
- Words of Affirmation
- Quality Time
- Receiving Gifts
- Acts of Service
- Physical Touch
*The electronic love language test below can only be viewed through a laptop or desktop computer and not through a mobile or other similar device (sorry)*
To get more in depth information about each particular love language, you can purchase your copy of the book by Dr. Gary Chapman.
What is your love language? How will knowing this help you in your relationships in the future?