Another Valentine’s Day has come and gone, and the thrifty among us shopped for bargains we can use next year. Yes, the holiday is over, but what can we do to make sure the depth and demonstration of our love never fails?
What Love Is – And What Love Is Not
Many of us have heard of 1 Corinthians 13, popularly known as the “Love Chapter.” In verses 4-8 of this chapter, Apostle Paul gives us a divine perspective on love. He tells us love is patient and kind. Love isn’t boastful or self-serving. It doesn’t degrade others, and it’s not quick-tempered.
In its true state, love takes not pleasure in evil, but it’s delighted when truth triumphs and prevails. And get this: love always strives to protect, is always trusting and persevering. And if all that wasn’t enough, Paul drops the big whammy on us by stating Love. Never. Fails!
Charity Begins At Home
To me, so much of what 1 Corinthians 13 says speaks to relationships. When we think of “relationship” our thoughts often turn to a romantic relationship; the one we enjoy with our significant other, and though the passage is much broader than that, I can’t help but remember my Grandmother saying, “Charity begins at home.”
Relating and interacting with others is extremely important, yet our relationships with them should not supersede our most intimate relationship, the one we have with our spouse. Properly loving others should begin with the ones closest to us, the one we said “I do” to, and any children we have. How are we interacting with them? More important, how are we treating them?
Love Is A Two-way Street
This love thing is a two-way street, and everyone in the equation is tasked with the responsibility of making sure they love each other right. Imagine how “right” the love I experience with my husband would be if I determined to focus not so much on how he loves me, but how I love him? What would happen in our marriages if we told each other, “You can’t beat me loving you!” and we did our best to prove it?
How Do I Love You? Let Me Focus On The Ways!
Want to ensure your love never fails? Focus! Focusing on how we love our mates gives us the ability to first realize our own imperfections. Properly done, this laser focus reveals to us that we need love and tolerance just as much as our husbands do! Focusing on the quality of our love for our mate enables us to do what the Corinthians passage says. When we focus on the love we give, we’re able to be patient and kind instead of being self-seeking or too proud to say, “I’m sorry.”
Focusing on love helps us to not dishonor or disrespect our spouse. When we have a disagreement and he’s in the wrong, love helps us to not keep a record of that wrong or hold a grudge but to forgive and let it go. Focusing on love also helps us to protect, trust, hope, and persevere.
Love Never Fails
When my husband and I made the decision to get married, we knew we would have our share of ups and downs. We promised to continue loving each other in spite of any obstacles we faced, and thankfully, we kept that promise. I believe if more couples approach their relationship armed with a “my love will never fail” mindset, they would be able to withstand any storm life sends their way.
Do you believe “love never fails?” What storms have you faced in your relationship requiring a “my love will never fail” mindset?