It’s February y’all! *gasp* So I’ll be dedicating this month’s Motivational Monday posts to self-love. As moms and women, we must learn how to FLY – First Love Yourself. This is not a new concept here on this platform. It’s something that triggered me starting Moms ‘N Charge™. And for those that have been around, you know that my live workshops were created with this critical message as the center (Dare to FLY).
Last week I mentioned that I’ll be speaking at Steve Harvey’s Act Like a Success Conference next month. Well every week, leading up until the conference, Doreen Rainey will be hosting a free Success Series call with some of the amazing speakers that will be teaching at the conference. One of those speakers is Patrice Washington, and last week she spoke about this concept in a way that was so unbelievably powerful.
But if you haven’t signed up yet, to tune in weekly and access these free recordings, I encourage you to do so here. Patrice is a financial expert and has a radio show on the Steve Harvey Morning show called Real Money Answers. And boy, was she dishing out some real money answers in last week’s call.
One thing that really hit home (which I hadn’t thought of before) was the fact that your self-love and self-care has a direct effect on your finances. She used an example of people who are always there to help/bail out family members from certain financial situations. And when you make a habit out of it, regardless of who they are, you’re taking away from your own legacy and financial goals you set for you and your family. One of the money mistakes she mentioned is the fact that we’re quick to take no as an answer, but we’re not quick to give no as an answer.
She then used the example that she refused to look her now seven-year-old daughter in the face eleven years from now, and tell her she’s not able to help her through school or her entrepreneurial journey because she spent all her money helping Uncle Pooky pay his rent. She then reiterated the fact that the only person she’s responsible for is her daughter, and the legacy she’s creating to leave for her and future generations.
My favorite quote of the night: Sometimes to help people, you have to stop helping them.
We have to love ourselves enough to understand that other people’s emergencies, do not constitute an emergency on our part.
I don’t know about you, but I refuse to look my children in the eyes and tell them that I can’t support them through school because I was too busy helping out everyone else that I was not put here on this earth to be responsible for.
When you really learn to love yourself, you learn where to draw the line.
Where will you draw the line today so you can FLY?