I recently had my natural hair straightened for the first time in a year. Upon the beauticians finds were unequal lengths of hair, a bald spot, and split ends that went up to the root. Can you say hot mess! However, this head of hot mess is a reflection of the last year of my life, showing that I need to take better care of myself.
The unequal lengths represent the constant highs and lows my life has taken. The bald spot, the loss I’ve had to endure. The split ends represent the me that wants to chase my dreams and the other part of me that feels trapped by the current reality of my life.
The hair overall demonstrates the toll this season in my life has taken on me. I started this journey with healthy head of coils that are now broken and brittle from life. Just as I must rejuvenate my hair and get it healthy again, the same can be said for my overall self.
- I need to take care of myself too. As a woman and as a mother I am constantly making sure everyone and everything is taken care of but I have totally dropped the ball on myself. If I don’t take care of me then who will? How can the ship run properly if the captain is broken down.
- I really need to find a beneficial outlet to deal with stress. Part of the damage done to my hair was done because I would pick at it, many times unknowingly, slowly breaking it off. Maybe it’s time for me to try something relaxing like yoga, I’ve always been interested but never gave it time.
- I need to learn how to mentally get into a space where I can daily project the way I want my life to go, versus getting over-taken by the daily battle and struggles. I need to be able to tap into that inner fighter on a daily basis so I can encourage myself to believe things will get better.
- Lastly, I need to let go of the mentality that looking nice and taking care of my body is for special occasions, or a special person in your life. Life is the greatest special occasion and I am just as special as the next woman. I’m not going to put on a full face of makeup daily but properly styling my hair and a pair of earrings won’t hurt.
Who knew that a head of hair would spark this reflection and these revelations. I’m glad it did because moms matter too. Self care is more than once a month spa day treat. It’s a daily requirement needed in order to continually impact the world. Self care is the best care and it starts with you!
How do you prioritize and/or pamper yourself?