A strong or successful relationship often starts long before you meet that person. Whether it’s a friendship, aquaintance, or marriage, it starts within. We all can easily think of great relationships we have with people, and the not so great relationships we have with people. More often times than not, there is a common denominator for the not-so-great relationships. Sometimes it’s the other person, sometimes it’s us, and sometimes, it’s just unhealthy and has reached the end of its season. It’s our job to either protect ourselves from these people, or to take ownership that people are protecting themselves from us.
1. Egotistical. Vain. Boastful. Opinionated. A person who is egotistical is all about making themselves look good. They take so much pride in who they are and what they do, that they leave very little room for others to enter into their space. Most of the time, they don’t even realize they’ve alienated themselves, and they usually believe it’s the other person’s fault. An egotistical person usually appears really confident and sometimes intimidating on the outside, but more often times than not, those are the people with low self-esteem.
2. Selfishness. Are you the type of person who only calls people when you need something? Do you ever make yourself available to help others that help you (even on short notice)? Most selfish people don’t. A selfish person never acknowledges they are at fault for anything. They never take the time to acknowledge another person’s feelings or point-of-view. A selfish person does not take on the attitude of what can they do for you? Instead, they take on the attitude of “how much can you do for me before I even think about doing anything for you”? Selfishness is the cause of many broken hearts.
4. Negativity. Negative people can suck the life out of you. No matter what is going on, they will find a way to find something negative in the situation. These are the people who are constantly blaming everyone and everything around them for their own unhappiness. They hate their job cause their boss is a jerk. They find a new (great) job and can’t stand the intern cause they ask stupid questions all day. They never fail to look at the dark side of every situation. After a while, this gets old, so stop it! Nobody wants to be around someone who deflates the happiness in every situation. It’s unhealthy.
5. Arrogance. Most arrogant people have a big ego, which is just as annoying. An arrogant person exudes unpleasantly proud behaviors. They always think they are better than other people, and are not afraid to say it to their face. A lack of humility is one of the most annoying traits a person could have. It’s also a great way to ruin your relationships because most of the time, you come off as rude and condescending. Get over yourself. You’re not God’s gift to the earth, contrary to your own popular belief.
What are some annoying traits that have ruined some of your past relationships?