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There’s no doubt about it: any relationship worth having will take a commitment from both parties. And with marriage, I’ve never liked to use the term “hard work” because it has a negative connotation. Marriage is “love work”. It’s “commitment work”. It’s “joy work”. It’s something you should enjoy, not something you dread coming home to.
The wedding is just a beautiful memory at the beginning of your journey together. Beyond the glitz and glam, real life happens. And if you enter into marriage under a false pretense, issues are bound to occur. Poor communication is the number one cause of divorce (from YourTango.com). And when those conflicts are left unresolved, when communication becomes obsolete, that’s when divorce is bound to happen.
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Over the last ten years of marriage, I can truly say that my husband and I are closer than we have ever been. I know that I can go to him with any problem and we will work together to create a solution. Back in the day when he came to me with a problem, I took immediate defense which would deter him from wanting to speak. I had to learn that every disagreement wasn’t a personal attack. I had to learn that even though I didn’t grow up being able to voice my concerns/opinions, that if I wanted my marriage to work, I had better work on learning how to do so.
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Well thank God for giving us what we need long before we even know we need it. My husband is one of the most patient and understanding people you will ever meet. We have learned so much from each other about the power of communication. We don’t know everything, but we have surely come a long way. Disagreements will always come along, but it’s how you choose to deal with them that will make the difference in strengthening or weakening your relationship.
What is our greatest love lesson learned for a happy marriage? To allow each other to grow in our own respects; but to communicate whilst we grow so we have an understanding of where we are individually as well as together.
Tiya Cunningham-Sumter decided to change the conversation and write a book about changing the way couples communicate by offering 32 bold relationship lessons. She knows this book has the power to change lives. You can grab your copy HERE.